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The Flight of Restless Leg Syndrome
Empath Struggles
Specializing in the Quirky?
On Coming Late to the Battle
Neurotypical Privilege

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The Flight of Restless Leg Syndrome

I can barely remember what it was like to not have Restless Leg Syndrome. I think I was 8 when I first noticed the feelings of not being able to sit still when I was supposed to, because my legs felt like they had surges of electricity running through their nerves. If you're unfamiliar with the delights of this condition, I'll explain a little further. No, it's not the same as cramps. Those people who constantly bounce a leg up and down as they sit otherwise still generally don't have RLS.

Empath Struggles

This morning as I was getting dressed, I heard yet another fight going on in the apartment next to mine. A young couple with small children lives there, and not a week goes by when I don't at least once hear a shouting match between them. Yes, the hazards of apartment living, but also the hazards of just being human in community. People disagree, emotions run high. We have reactions to things we see or hear. And all of those things are perfectly valid conditions of being human. When you're empathic though, it can get extra hard.

Specializing in the Quirky?


What does that mean anyway? What a weird thing to specialize in!
 
I struggled a long time trying to find a way to describe myself as a therapist and my practice. Many counselors find one or two methods they love to use, and specialize in that. Or they discover that they are really excellent with particular diagnoses, and develop them into a specialty. Me? I choose to specialize in a type of person rather than either of those. There's no one else like you in the world, and so how could anyone assume to know exactly what will work for you and exactly what your experiences have been?

On Coming Late to the Battle

We've been distracted. We've been busy. We've ignored the sounds of battle outside our town. It's Their problem, we may have said. It doesn't affect Us, we say. It's not a big deal, just a little skirmish. Rabble rousers causing problems we don't need to engage with or worry about. But wait, maybe it's gotten louder. Maybe the battle has come closer to our town walls. Maybe we've caught sounds of rounds going over our heads. Maybe that battle actually Is something we should pay attention to.

Neurotypical Privilege

(For reference, ND=neurodivergent, which includes Autism Spectrum, learning disabilities, some pervasive mental health diagnoses; NT=neurotypical, meaning those people without any of those differences in wiring)
 
Four years into a relationship, we came to the conclusion that my partner is Neurodivergent. We struggled a whole lot getting to a point where we could speak similar languages and meet in a mutually meaningful way. Much tension, conflict, and we nearly broke up a few times. The breakthrough point was when I learned to set aside my accustomed framework and truly feel and respond with empathy and understanding.
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